Guy:
What do you look for in a guy?
Mer:
Likes to cook, but can’t cook better than meCan think for himself
Chivalry is a mustKnows how to pick me out a gift I’ll actually LIKEIs capable of thinking in out of the box terms
Drives AmericanHe MUST be a social butterfly like I amShort hair/clean cut/scruffy beard sometimes
Guy:
how can u be a social butterfly and be nerdy at the same time
Mer:
Someone who isn’t looking for his motherHey, I’m a nerdy social butterflyit’s possibleAggies get bonus points
I pretty much have to marry an Aggie
That’s really all I can come up withhe HAS to be a snugglerSomeone who does as many nice things for me as I do for himWhich is A LOT
Guy:
all i have to say is good luck
Mer:
He has to love Texas/Be open to love TexasHe needs to ABIDE BY THE LAW for the most partHe needs to not freak out if I don’t neglect to pay anything less than 85% of my attention to himThat’s been my biggest problem so farI keep finding these attention sucking assholes who just end up cheating on me
Guy:
u know what it is…they are not used to u being a social butterfly
Mer:
Please explain
Guy:
they must not trust u all the way or have been hurt in that past or whatever the reasonguys like to keep girls to themselves…
Mer:
Man it’s not my fault I can talk to anyone, am self confident, and am great to party with
Guy:
its a universal truth
Mer:
YEAH why is that!Please explain this to me furtherYou’re the first person to admit it
Guy:
unless they are cheating on u
Mer:
Up until now I thought that was a mythPLEASE go on
Guy:
well u will think less of guys if i tell ucuz even i think this way a little
Mer:
Please I already think very little of guys
Guy:
i think that if im going to be in a relationship and committ myself to a girl.. i dont want to see that kind of …um reaction from my girl to someone else…even if its not flirting or whatever…
Mer:
I never go around and flirt with other guys
Guy:
its how we are wired
Mer:
Don’t you remember I told you to stop writing on my wall because I didn’t think whats-his-face would like it
Guy:
it goes further than that
Mer:
How so
Guy:
guys know and i know it is possessivebut its how most guys areand they deny it
Mer:
So guys like to hone in on a girl and ensure that that girl has no guy friends? What about girl friends?
Guy:
ur correctthey will like girl friend to a pointdepending on if the friend gets u involved with other guys or noton any levelweird huh
Mer:
So basically men want a woman to themselves to have no friends
Guy:
basically
it comes down to how tolerant they are and how much u can put up with it
Mer:
I don’t understand.I have a life before them.
I have a life through them.I will have a life after them.I’m sure as fuck not stopping my life for any man.
Guy:
thats why ur single still; no offense
Mer:
Well I need to find a man who’s a bit more mature than these assholes I’ve been dating then
Guy:
dont get me wrong… there are exceptions to every casebut for the most part.guys are possessive in naturei dont think ur vision of being with another social butterfly is going to work…the rules dont apply to the guythey can chat or whatever and think nothing of it but if they see u with someone else talking… its in their nature to see the bad in the situation.and think the worst…
Mer:
GGEEEEZZZZHonest to God I do not have the time in the day that I can set aside to stroke a man’s f*&^ing ego any more than I have just so that he’ll trust meI’m a damn good woman, I work hard, and I always show my man that I love him
Guy:
thats why the shy girls get guys faster
Mer:
Why, because they’re like prey?
Guy:
no because they dont have the social environment like the non shy ones have
Mer:
I thought men liked challenge and chase
Guy:
its guy logicit defys any natural logic but nevertheless, is a force that has to be dealt with
Mer:
So being charismatic, social, and knowing a lot of people hurts me
Guy:
it depends
Mer:
So guys don’t like girls who have a lot of friends
Guy:
guy friends and girls who hang out with guys alot
Mer:
Well lucky for them most of my guy friends have been chased off
Guy:
pretty much whats going on in a guys head is that they want a girl to be their slut and no one elses… or show any signs of being anyone elses…and they want as much of ur time as possible
Mer:
GAH don’t they get TIRED OF ME?
Guy:
bluntly speaking
Mer:
I sure as hell get TIRED OF THEM!
Guy:
well when ur possessive u dont get tired of ur property… u get jealousthats the problemso really when a guy gets really jealous its their weird way of showing they are paying attention to u.
Mer:
Oh wow.I don’t want that kind of attention.
Opinions welcomed and encouraged.
I do not agree with "GUY" – Duck
There are plenty of guys that don't want a quiet, shy, insecure woman that they have to babysit. However, I notice those types tend to have girlfriends and the single ones are often as described.
I've also been told by a close guy friend that one of my major problems is that I'm "too honest" and that men want to be lied to a little, especially about themselves. Come to think of it, I don't often hear men bitch about being lied to.
I have come to the conclusion that dealing with both of my dogs and a few screaming children would probably be easier than dealing with 95% of the available men out there.(note: I have no plans for children, just saying.)
If "Guy" is the way he claims to be, he needs to read this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200906/jealousy-loves-destroyer
Not all guys are insanely jealous, and the ones who are need therapy.
His advice is ridiculous. It's completely absurd. You shouldn't change any part of who you are just to hook a man. The reason you're single is because you live in GONZALES! Mystery solved!